Tonight we had more odd electrical phenomena, making me glad a visit from my daddy, known as “Grandaddy” to Mythankfulboy, will be visiting soon. Not the only reason, of course. He was originally due tomorrow, but the trip was postponed a few days. We can go without lighting in the kitchen for a few days, right?
B is sleeping on the couch after having found 2 ants on his bed. The dog loves it, because B pulls the dog’s ottoman up to the couch beside him (since the dog is not allowed on the couch) and they snuggle up. Once they were in place tonight, I read Affirmation #457, by Reverend Edward Everett Hale, from the gray hymnal as our chalice reading:
I am only one
But still I am one.
I cannot do everything,
But still I can do something.
And because I cannot do everything
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.
I closed the hymnal and waited for a response.
B said, “Huh?”
I laughed. I have to admit, by the time I had gotten to the end, the reading was feeling a little Seussian. So I read it again, slowly. He still had no idea what it meant, so I interpreted for him that looking at big problems and thinking “I’m too small to change that big problem” means nothing will ever change. Instead, look at the big problem, and if it makes you think it’s really not fair, think “That makes me really mad. I’m going to do what I can do.” If you do that, chances are others will join you, but even if they don’t, you will have some impact, and that matters.
He said, “Huh”, this time as in “I hadn’t thought of it that way before”.
I said, “I wonder what’s going to make you really mad?” He answered, “Right now, it’s hypocriticism (hippo-criticism).” “Wow”, said I. “That’s a pretty great word without actually being a word.” “You know what I mean – when somebody gets all over somebody else but they do the same thing.” “Yep, sounds like ‘hypocriticism’ to me, and that could make me mad. How would you go about changing something like that?” I asked. “I have no idea”, he responded.
I had no answers for him. We talked a bit about why it made him mad (unfairness), why someone might hypocriticize (oh yeah, now we’re conjugating it), and what you’d really have to change to change the behavior. To tie up the conversation, I re-worded my original thought – that I was looking forward to seeing what community or world issues made his heart hurt enough to fight for as he got older.
He said, “Me too.”